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Buckle up! You’re cruising through mid-life, but don’t worry, you’re just getting started. Join us (Sandra and Nicole) in our podcasting journey through the ups and downs of the messy middle. You can listen to our entire archive of podcast episodes below or subscribe on iTunes / Apple Podcasts, Overcast, or your favorite podcast app. Let’s go!

EO97: Celebrating Family with Memory Walls this Holiday with Sandra Costello

EO97: Celebrating Family with Memory Walls this Holiday with Sandra Costello

Thanks for joining me for this episode of the Messy Middle Road Trip podcast. Covid-19 has thrown a real wrench into our lives and not being with the ones we love has been very difficult. Today I’ll be talking about the upcoming holidays and how you can celebrate your family and friends even if you’re not physically together. Listen in on how you can create a Memory Wall filled with your favorite photographic memories and still be surrounded by the people you love.

To find out more about Memory Walls and how Sandra can create a memorable gift for you this holiday, visit: https://sandralovesyou.com/memory-walls/

To see today’s podcast on YouTube visit our channel: https://youtu.be/CsFFaZ2GJJ8

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EO78: Find Calm In The Midst Of Chaos With Mindful Parenting Coach Tracie Osborne

EO96: Pivoting As Midlife Entrepreneurs During Covid With Nicole Markel And Sandra Costello Part Two

EO96: Pivoting As Midlife Entrepreneurs During Covid With Nicole Markel And Sandra Costello Part Two

Welcome to the Messy Middle Road Trip podcast. Today, Sandra and I are coming together to celebrate two months of podcasting together. We also wanted to dig into a topic that many of you might relate to as entrepreneurs during covid. For some it was a time of immense growth and opportunity and for others, it was the end of a journey. This was such a fun conversation with such terrific content, we decided to split the episode into two parts. Make sure to catch Part One and Part Two to listen to the entire episode. We know you’ll love it so let’s grab the snacks, call shotgun and hit the road for another episode.

 

Nicole and Sandra discuss the biggest challenge for their businesses during this time and how the pandemic challenged them to think outside the box. They also share their biggest blessings and what they are grateful for.

 

They chat about what’s in the works for the remainder of 2020 and going into 2021 with their businesses. And they offer tips for getting back on track or adjusting your mindset to thrive.

 

If you are interested in connecting with Sandra for a photography session, you can visit her website at sandralovesyou.com or email her at sandra@sandralovesyou.com

 

If you would like to connect with Nicole to book a wellness consultation or an online event to become empowered to make healthier choices, you can email her at nicolemarkel@comcast.net or visit her website to place an order at www.phenicolemarkel.com

 

We hope you enjoyed this episode of The Messy Middle Road Trip Podcast and feel inspired to step out of your comfort zone and take a risk with your career. Failing is part of learning and growing. There is no shame in that, only the opportunity to become who you were meant to be.

 

If you want to keep the conversation going visit us on Facebook, Instagram, Youtube or at MessyMiddleRoadTrip.com. And if you like what we’re doing, please consider subscribing to the podcast and leaving us a rating and review so we can reach more amazing middlers.  We’re looking forward to our next road trip with you. Until then, thanks for riding shotgun.

 

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EO66: Become Empowered To Choose The Healthiest Lifestyle Possible 

EO92: Book The Damn Photo shoot With Sandra Costello

 

 

EO96: Pivoting As Midlife Entrepreneurs During Covid With Nicole Markel And Sandra Costello Part One

EO96: Pivoting As Midlife Entrepreneurs During Covid With Nicole Markel And Sandra Costello Part One

Welcome to the Messy Middle Road Trip podcast. Today, Sandra and I are coming together to celebrate two months of podcasting together. We also wanted to dig into a topic that many of you might relate to as entrepreneurs during covid. For some it was a time of immense growth and opportunity and for others, it was the end of a journey. This was such a fun conversation with such terrific content, we decided to split the episode into two parts. Make sure to catch Part One and Part Two to listen to the entire episode. We know you’ll love it so let’s grab the snacks, call shotgun and hit the road for another episode.

Nicole and Sandra discuss the biggest challenge for their businesses during this time and how the pandemic challenged them to think outside the box. They also share their biggest blessings and what they are grateful for.

They chat about what’s in the works for the remainder of 2020 and going into 2021 with their businesses. And they offer tips for getting back on track or adjusting your mindset to thrive.

If you are interested in connecting with Sandra for a photography session, you can visit her website at sandralovesyou.com or email her at sandra@sandralovesyou.com

If you would like to connect with Nicole to book a wellness consultation or an online event to become empowered to make healthier choices, you can email her at nicolemarkel@comcast.net or visit her website to place an order at www.phenicolemarkel.com

We hope you enjoyed this episode of The Messy Middle Road Trip Podcast and feel inspired to step out of your comfort zone and take a risk with your career. Failing is part of learning and growing. There is no shame in that, only the opportunity to become who you were meant to be.

If you want to keep the conversation going visit us on Facebook, Instagram, Youtube or at Messy Middle Road Trip.com. And if you like what we’re doing, please consider subscribing to the podcast and leaving us a rating and review so we can reach more amazing middlers.  We’re looking forward to our next road trip with you. Until then, thanks for riding shotgun.

 

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EO3: Meet Nicole Markel

EO88: Getting To Know Co-Host Sandra Costello

EO95: Carrie Rowan Uncovers the Stories Getting in Our Way

EO95: Carrie Rowan Uncovers the Stories Getting in Our Way

We are thrilled to have Carrie Rowan with us in the convertible today. Carrie is an award-winning singer/songwriter and International best selling author. She is a certified coach and founder of the STORY method. A teacher and speaker, Carrie uniquely combines the power of provocative storytelling with live music.  She was also the director of advertising with Spirit of Change Magazine. Carrie spent a decade working for Fortune 500 companies before jumping off the corporate ladder to pursue her creative endeavors and inspire others to follow their passions. Born with a desire to inspire others, her contagious enthusiasm and charismatic qualities draw her listeners/readers in to inspire, soothe, uplift, and guide you to tell a better story that is in line with your deepest dreams and desires. We know you’ll love it so let’s grab the snacks, call shotgun and hit the road for another episode.

How to connect with Carrie:
Website: https://carrierowan.com
Email: carrierowanauthor@gmail.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/carrietunes
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carrie-rowan-7a251813/

Her book, Tell a New Story: Amazon

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EO85: Aging Joyfully And Redefining Health In Midlife With Annie Gaudreault
EO74: Get Some Sleep with Certified Sleep Science Coach Krista Cumming

EO94: Top 5 Tips For Breast Cancer Prevention And Ways To Avoid Being Pinkwashed With Nicole Markel

EO94: Top 5 Tips For Breast Cancer Prevention And Ways To Avoid Being Pinkwashed With Nicole Markel

Thanks for joining me on this episode of the Messy Middle Roadtrip Podcast. I’m Nicole, one half of our dynamic hosting duo. We’re entrepreneurs, wives, a mom, a favorite auntie, creative souls and women who are fearlessly navigating the middle of life. In between our regular podcasts, Sandra and I will be going solo to talk about our areas of expertise. Sandra tackles showing up as your authentic self with lessons she’s learned in her photography business and I tackle wellness. Today I’ll be sharing tips for breast cancer prevention and ways to avoid being pinkwashed.

This podcast was created to bring together a community of women over 40 who embrace the past, appreciate where we are now and take action to live our best life. Because it’s all about the journey.

Welcome to the show. I’m so glad you’re here with me today whether you’re driving in your car, making dinner or allowing us to go on your walk during your lunchbreak. Sandra and I appreciate you taking the time to listen and be a part of this amazing tribe.

October is here and with that, all things pink for breast cancer awareness. Fundraising efforts, walks, pink ribbon campaigns…We’re inundated with marketing and advertising that pulls on our heart strings to support the cause. I want to dig into the term pinkwashing and how to avoid the pitfalls.

Many of you have heard me mention greenwashing. Marketing that manufacturers create to get consumers to purchase products labeled as “natural”, “safe” or “pure.” Pinkwashing is very similar in that companies want us to purchase a “pink” product to support breast cancer. What does that mean?

Think of all the products that come to mind with pink ribbon campaigns…
Cars. Makeup. The NFL. Jewelry. Apparel. KFC partnered with Susan G. Komen and raised a total of 4.2 million. Unhealthy fried foods that can contribute to obesity and increase a woman’s risk for breast cancer by as much as 25 percent.
Bizarre campaigns:
Smith & Wesson handgun with a pink grip and engraved pink ribbon.
Mike’s Hard Pink Lemonade.
Drill bits for fracking.
Pepper spray.
Sparkletts water company released Athena water as “water that can help make a difference” bottled in plastic containing BPA, a common compound found in certain plastics and suspected of leaching toxins into our bodies. And BPA has been flagged with the risk of interfering with chemotherapy treatments.
Estee Lauder, DKNY, Melange and Jo Malone- created special scents in honor of breast cancer awareness and research.
In 2011, Susan G. Komen for the Cure commissioned a perfume called Promise Me which contained fragrance – an umbrella term in the industry where manufacturers can hide hundreds of harmful ingredients, including toxic ones that are unregulated, not tested for human safety and confirmed to demonstrate negative health effects.

While Avon has been extremely active with fundraising millions of dollars for research and education, they came under fire with their Kiss Goodbye to Breast Cancer campaign which included 6 paraben containing lipsticks. Parabens are preservatives derived from petroleum that act as hormone disruptors. They mimic estrogen and can increase the risk of breast cancer.

Yoplait launched a Put a Lid on it campaign in 2008 which sold pink lidded yogurt to raise money for breast cancer but was made with the carcinogenic hormone rBGH. The list is endless for the companies that have hopped on board with pink ribbon campaigns.

So you might be wondering, well, how do we navigate knowing which products are actually making a difference in the fight against breast cancer? You might need to do a little research before making your purchase.

Here are some questions you can ask:
Does any money from this purchase actually go to support breast cancer programs? And if so, how much?
What organization will get the money?
How will the funds be used?
Is there a cap on the amount a company will donate? And how will we know once that amount has been met? Many companies claim that a portion of the proceeds will be donated. Transparency is key for understanding the value of supporting the purchase.
Does this product put you or someone you love at risk? Is the product contributing to the breast cancer epidemic?

I think it’s important to note the origin story of the pink ribbon to understand the marketing concept behind it. In 1992, Estee Lauder makeup counters handed out 1.5 million ribbons along with a laminated card with information about conducting a proper breast self exam. While Estee Lauder has had considerable impact over the years with millions raised, it also produces thousands of beauty products loaded with carcinogens. Their motto is a promise to “create a breast cancer-free world.” And it’s a well known fact that Estee Lauder is the parent company of brands like La Mer, Bobbi Brown, Tom Ford Beauty, Origins, Aveda and more. None of these companies sell clean products that are 100% safe for us and the environment. It’s a known fact that cumulative, low-dose exposure to harmful ingredients can lead to toxic body burden and disease.

A few sobering facts: 1 in 8 women will be diagnosed with breast cancer in their lifetime. Nearly 3,000 men will be diagnosed with breast cancer by the end of this year. The good news is that when breast cancer is found in the earliest stages, the survival rate is nearly 100%.

Here are my top 5 tips for what you can do to take action with focusing on prevention:
1) Self exam/annual screening – graphics online and apps for reminders. Try to stick to the same day every month. Regular mammograms or thermography can detect abnormalities.
If you have a strong family history of breast cancer, a known gene mutation that increases breast cancer risk, such as in the BRCA1 or BRCA2 gene, it’s important to get genetic testing and counseling.
2) Sleep – melatonin has antioxidant properties that prevent damage to cells that lead to cancer.
3) Diet – eating a diet rich in fruits, vegetables, whole grains, chicken and fish is recommended. Flavonoids lower breast cancer odds, especially in women past menopause. You can find flavonols in onions, broccoli and tea. And you can find flavones in parsley, celery and drinks with chamomile. Carotenoids are found in foods that are orange, yellow or dark green. These are phytochemical plant based foods that lower your breast cancer risk. Examples are carrots, pumpkins, winter squash, spinach, kale, sweet potato and cantaloupe. It is best to avoid or limit red and processed meats, sugar-sweetened beverages, highly processed foods and refined grain products, alcohol and sugar.
4) Exercise – excess weight can increase levels of estrogen and insulin which can increase the risk for breast cancer.
5) And avoiding harmful ingredients in your personal care and cleaning products is a step in the right direction for removing endocrine disruptors like parabens and phthalates, known carcinogens like PEGs, DEAs,BHT, ingredients ending in -eth and 1,4 dioxane, synthetic colors and dyes and glycol to name a few. Reading those labels and making healthier choices can give us control over what we’re exposed to. It takes more than a ribbon to make these formulas breast cancer friendly.

It’s very easy to get caught up in supporting a good cause but it’s equally important to slow down and do a little research about the mission and purpose of the organization and how the fundraising will impact research, support and prevention. This horrific disease will take the lives of nearly 43,000 men and women by the end of this year. It’s up to us to stay informed, proactively take action to reduce our risk and lean into worthy fundraising efforts that are making a positive difference.

Thanks for tuning into today’s show. I hope that you are inspired to get to know the look and feel of the girls, ta-tas, twins, puppies, melons, coconuts, boobies or whatever you call them! Make time for those self exams, book that mammogram, assess your health choices and give breast the cancer the finger. Your health and well-being is top priority and we want you to be a part of our middler community for a long time. And when you are out and about, think twice about buying those pink ribbon rubber kitchen gloves or bucket of fried chicken. And just to remind you, I am not a doctor, nor do I play one on TV. My thoughts and opinions are just that and any concerns or questions you have should be directed to your doctor. My goal is to give you something to think about as you embark on your own health journey.

You can find more at messy middle road trip dot com or connect with us on FB, Instagram and YouTube. If you like the show, please subscribe and send us some love by rating and reviewing the podcast. Sandra and I are looking forward to our next road trip with you. Thanks for riding shotgun. Until next time…

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EO29: Toxic Body Burden: What Are The Signs Of A Hair Detox And How Can You Speed It Up?

 

 

EO: 93 Navigating Change during a Global Pandemic with Margaret Tantillo

EO: 93 Navigating Change during a Global Pandemic with Margaret Tantillo

Today we’re going to talk with Margaret Tantillo, the Executive Director of Dress for Success of Western Massachusetts, about change, resilience, and how she uncovered strategies for success in the midst of a messy patch. Margaret has dedicated her career working with nonprofits to improve the lives of women and girls. She has over 20 years of experience and proven success in nonprofit management. Past experience includes a senior leadership position for a statewide organization with over 65,000 members and an eleven-million dollar budget.

We’ll talk with Margaret about a past experience in which the organization she worked for went through a major transition and how she was not emotionally equipped to deal with change at that time. We’ll talk about how she got through that messy patch and then made the commitment to learn about change and how it impacts individuals and organizations, and how those lessons prepared her to be a strong and impactful leader during a global pandemic.

Dress for Success of Western Massachusetts
https://westernmass.dressforsuccess.org
413.732.8179
westernmassachusetts@dressforsuccess.org

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EO:82 Facing Your Fears in Midlife with Jessica Pertuz
EO:44 Tackling Obstacles with American Ninja Warrior, Sandy Zimmerman

 

EO:92 Book the Damn Photo Shoot with Sandra Costello

EO:92 Book the Damn Photo Shoot with Sandra Costello

So often I hear women tell me they hate to have their picture taken. How they just need to lose weight, are too old, or not worthy of the simple act of being captured. I disagree. I think every woman deserves to be photographed. They deserve to be seen, to be celebrated and to be told they are beautiful.

In this episode Sandra talks about the stories we tell ourselves. Why we think we shouldn’t be in the picture when it couldn’t be further from the truth. We deserve love, kindness, and proof we have lived an amazing life. It’s time to book the damn photo shoot.

If you’re ready to get into the picture, Sandra can’t wait to hear from you.
https://sandralovesyou.com
https://www.instagram.com/sandracostellophotography/
https://www.facebook.com/sandracostellophotography

 

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EO:77 The Art of Being Yourself with Sandra Costello

EO:66 Become Empowered to Choose the Healthiest Lifestyle Possible

 

 

 

EO91: Menopause Café With Nathalie Bonafé

EO91: Menopause Café With Nathalie Bonafé

Welcome to the Messy Middle Road Trip podcast. We are thrilled to have women’s health advocate, Nathalie Bonafé joining us in the convertible today. A native of France, Nathalie ​is a Doctor in Philosophy and Biology and Health with a focus in Molecular Biology and Biochemistry.

Nathalie moved to the United States in 1994 to pursue her career in biomedical research at the National Institutes of Health, Yale Medical School and the Biotech industry. In her mid to late 40s, she outgrew her corporate suit, became aware of her purpose and started her own enterprise as a women’s health and end-of-life advocate. She now provides individualized education and coaching, advocating for personal choices and autonomy. She is highly trained, and holds numerous certifications.

Nathalie’s mission is to change the conversation about living well, aging well, and dying well to help bring more clarity, focus, perspective and empathy into our culture. She believes that each of us has the right to know about options and possibilities as we age, especially in midlife. She recently established a Menopause Café  in CT for women and men to gather together to discuss all things midlife and menopause while supporting one another in a safe space.

Today’s conversation focuses on the following:

  • Menopause is a major taboo
  • How menopause awareness can improve our collective and individual clarity and choices
  • Navigating symptoms and struggles and setting the stage for future generations
  • The biology of menopause including how it affects the brain
  • Ways employers can become educated to support their workforce
  • The creation of The Menopause Café, CT
  • Best tips to navigate menopause

We hope you enjoy this episode of The Messy Middle Road Trip Podcast and feel empowered to listen to your body and find connection with other women, knowing that the process of menopause is a natural phenomenon.

If you want to keep the conversation going visit us on Facebook, Instagram, Youtube or at Messy Middle Road Trip.com. And if you like what we’re doing, please consider subscribing to the podcast and leaving us a rating and review so we can reach more amazing middlers.

We’re looking forward to our next road trip with you. Until then, thanks for riding shotgun.

Contact Information for Nathalie Bonafé:    agentlerparting@gmail.com     Call or text: 203 815 5743

Menopause Café tickets 

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EO63: Part One THE MAGNIFICENT MIDLIFE WITH RACHEL LANKESTER

EO63: PART TWO THE MAGNIFICENT MIDLIFE WITH RACHEL LANKESTER

EO90: Choosing Your Identity With Intention With Nicole Markel

EO90: Choosing Your Identity With Intention With Nicole Markel

On today’s show, Nicole’s shares an update on her health journey which includes new therapies such as working with a naturopath over the past eight months, Salt bed (halotherapy), Holistic Energy Coaching and Hydrocolon therapy.

Nicole also shares information about the two most recent personal development books she’s listened to on Audible:

The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz The book offers a code of conduct based on ancient Toltec wisdom that advocates freedom from self-limiting beliefs that may cause suffering and limitation in a person’s life.

The four agreements are:

Be impeccable with your word. 

Don’t take anything personally. 

Don’t make assumptions. 

Always do your best.

The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho

Told from the perspective of a shepherd boy, the idea that all individuals should live in the singular pursuit of their individual dreams. And each detour or roadblock is part of the plan to prepare you.

She encourages listeners to write a list of 10 traits you have that frame your identity (positive/negative). Ask a friend or spouse to do the same for perspective. Here are Nicole’s ten traits.

  1. Procrastinator
  2. Person with an autoimmune disorder (sick) 
  3. Caregiver
  4. Positive
  5. Supportive friend
  6. Funny
  7. Wellness warrior
  8. Loving mother, spouse, daughter
  9. Creative
  10. Passionate

How do you want to show up? How is that framed? Is it positive or negative? Is that truly helping you to be who you want to be? How can you change that mindset? Flip those self limiting beliefs? 

Nicole questions whether her top two choices are negatively framed. Choose to change the emotional trigger associated with each. Does it fill your cup? What can you let go of or lean into?

Identity can play a huge role in your overall health and wellness. Are you a Debbie Downer or Positive Patty? Nicole shares stories about her friend Kathi that recently beat cancer for the second time and her coffee meet up with friend of the podcast Dawn Whelan. 

Thanks for tuning into today’s show. I hope that you take time to discover who you are today and identify whether or not you’re fulfilled or if you have work to do to become the best version of you. We’re in control of how we show up. 

 You can find more at messy middle road trip dot com or connect with us on FB, Instagram and YouTube. If you like the show, please subscribe and send us some love by rating and reviewing the podcast. Sandra and I are looking forward to our next road trip with you. Thanks for riding shotgun. Until next time… 

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Episode 46: Conversation With a Death Doula

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Episode 55: You Only Live Twice With Joselyn Miller

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